Today I had to talk to Nia about hitting her siblings when she's mad or for no reason at all. Just talking to her about this kind of stuff can send her into The Distant Stare and Silent Mode. I was proud that she whispered and apology and asked for forgiveness. That's a HUGE step of progress. After the Forgiveness, she continued with Silence and Distance. She slumped on the kitchen floor (on top of the heating vent for warmth) and just sat. I sat and wrapped 'round her like a pretzel, just rocking her back and forth while she fought me and moaned loudly. After about 10 minutes of this I told her she was gonna help me make muffins. She refused, but I told her she had no choice. So, she sat on a barstool, stirring ingredients, cracking eggs, and crying/moaning the whole time. I just went about my business like everything was fine, making sure to do a one-armed hug every few minutes and rub her back (both of which made her cry louder). It's like she physically hurts when she is touched in a loving way. I just kept telling her that I would always love her no matter what, that I'd never leave her.
Once we got the muffins in the oven, I ran a bubble bath for her. A few minutes of bubbles seemed to help. I know when I feel like crying, a bubble bath always seems like a good idea. She's soaking now and no longer crying. She will probably emerge refreshed with a different view on life. I, however, am thorouthly exhausted from the whole ordeal!